Giving is Gaining

Giving is Gaining

When I was a schoolgirl, I remember thinking, “If those people liked me I’d be popular, important, find a boyfriend, and fit in.” The combination of a social life at school and entertainment on the weekends taught me that friendships existed to meet my emotional needs or make me popular. I thought an ideal friend would always listen and never disagree because I dreaded conflict. She would share all of my likes and none of my dislikes because then we’d always love hanging out. She would always lift me up and never drain me because then I’d always go home happy. 

13 Fun Things for Fall

  1. Corn or Sunflower Maze or if you do don't like mazes, just go for the fun photos!
  2. Apple picking is the best. Then you can make homemade apple sauce, cinnamon apple oatmeal, apple pie, or snack on apples and peanut butter, my personal favorite.
  3. Leaf piles! I used to rake leaves into piles for my kids to jump into.  They loved it when they were little. If your kids are big like mine, use it as an outreach to rake an older (or super busy) person’s yard.
  4. Dress up your dog in a costume and take pics...or just laugh as he tries to get out of it.
  5. Take a drive in the mountains and ask your girlfriend to marry you. 😍 Clayton proposed to me on the top of a mountain in Lineville Gorge in October on peak leaf season. Best day ever!!
  6. Camping in the fall is perfect. Bonfires, s’mores, hiking, canoeing....sounds like heaven to me. 
  7. Revised Camping for if you can’t make it into the wild woods. Recreate the experience in your backyard. We used to camp on our deck when our kids were afraid of the dark. The beauty of this is that a clean restroom is just a couple of doors away.
  8. Flowers: Buy some mums To decorate your front porch!!
  9. Rest. Curl up on your porch in a hammock and take a nap or read a good book.
  10. Cook a new fall favorite. Make Cinnamon Butternut Squash Pancakes with maple syrup or honey.
  11. Take lots of pictures. Find an old barn or field and do a photo shoot in a new sweater or scarf.
  12. Paint and carve pumpkins. Maybe even have a pumpkin carving contest.
  13. Take the opportunity to scare your husband with Spiders and clowns because you really only get this excuse once a year.

UGH... Mom Guilt

UGH... Mom Guilt

My husband recently told me that one of my common phrases is, "I feel bad that..." I never noticed how bad I felt for everything...for so many things I didn't need to feel bad for...until he made me aware. I felt bad when my kids got in trouble, got their feelings hurt, weren't having enough fun, or when I felt like a "bad mom." At first I tried to justify my guilty feelings by telling myself that Clayton was an insensitive guy. But, after years of trying to explain to him why I felt guilty (and why he should too), I understood that I was worrying about things that weren't my responsibility. I was carrying other people's burdens in the name of compassion and love, but was actually motivated by guilt.

Balancing Parenting

Balancing Parenting

How many times have you heard the quip, "Women are complicated?" Whenever I hear it, I want to roll my eyes. Of course women are complicated. Do we have an option? Think about it: We're supposed to be strong and independent, but also tender and nurturing. We're wired to want a man, but we're supposed to be content if we're single. We want a healthy marriage, but one in four of us have experienced abuse by a man.

Sometimes Love Looks Different

Sometimes Love Looks Different

Something happened inside me when I gave birth to my kids. I became obsessed with keeping peace among them. I wanted to make them stop yelling, stop hitting, stop picking at each other, stop throwing things at one another, stop, stop, stop. But controversy and tension among them happened every day and nothing I did or said took it away.And then, on the radio one day, I heard this quote from Focus on the Family. "If your boys are fighting, they are bonding.

Fear's Place in Leadership

Fear's Place in Leadership

Stephen was the leader I want to be. Not because he was an eloquent spokesman or because he had a large following, but because he was willing to be humble and obedient to the greatest leader of all time, Jesus! If we want to lead, we must learn how to obey God, whether or not his plan abides by our agenda.

Keys to Cultivating Communication

Keys to Cultivating Communication

Sometimes hectic can't be helped, but many times the chaos is a sign that we need to take time to problem solve. Miscommunication in leadership not only has the propensity to create chaos in your organization, but can also steal your momentum and focus. If we want to lead well, we have to eliminate confusion by addressing assumptions. Here are three ways we can do this...